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Лабковский 11.09.2018 - Последствие детских психотравм во взрослой жизни

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  • 00:00: hello my dears so usually says regina dubovitskaya hello hello how are you visited now I will now press the button and you turn a warhead worse a bubble bass Well I will talk tenor Hello, we have an unusual today day in the sense that it is not one hour going on I believe the house bean program today we will talk two hours with us what is called xxl
  • 00:30: I did a similar clothes then found and they mean the first part of this program will be devoted to a very interesting topic which we have never taken with you themes are childish psychotrauma them my consequences I, as a psychologist, will tell you what I will connect consequences do avas as patients somehow listen everyone will complain as my mom probably said my mom bore me from the fifth floor and therefore the media
  • 01:00: from me since then this vodka smell writers wrote it I do not remember this typical child psychotropist truth the seaman to defend the fifth floor of the poison from the child all live with vodka and then not have tried god's words didn't sit here here noob The topic is clear, I will not continue chew on very childish psychotrauma of them consequences in adulthood and the second part program 2 part this is all dream we hesitate to ask but asking questions off topic
  • 01:30: these are all your questions in general all that All that has accumulated without waiting carry peritonitis right until the end of the month today will tell a couple of words invite a little tickets left on Moscow on September 17 there for the first time This topic is about how to take responsibility for your life and in peter left, too, some amount tickets for September 15 ahead yet Israel Tula Rostov Kaliningrad well, in short look at Lapkovsky site . and we and
  • 02:02: so picks up the bell hello hello very happy to reach Mikhail not two children of your nursery or you already managed to create children for children too psychologist Well, well, tell me well, I understand, but continues this slave deepen cant
  • 02:35: understand how to influence don't aggravate The first question is how can this affect
  • 03:05: child psyche option 1 no way children how many years the way is no longer how thank God but the sediment remains why the children do not can break between father and mother This is the first problem and dad as it were trying to say but i'm generally the whole white and the motives are such a bastard makes kids choose from this Of course in children the roof goes this is the first problem but it is a flower of course
  • 03:35: the second problem is that children associate themselves with their parents that is, we consider ourselves part of our parents if one of the parents our bastards that they and the bastards are what the problem is our low self- doubt uncertainty to yourself relationships are very often based on bad attitude to parents if dad starts lowering mom then kids I associate myself with my mother from my day too
  • 04:06: delighted this is the second problem estimated since children are not 3 not four years, God forbid drags and bring now what to do with it means with dad says useless dad see us offended apparently you were the initiator divorce guess but it's a shame that you threw developed it yes probably what
  • 04:36: the reason was the planets 1 the main thing is clear the second means how to solve this problem then us dad says useless so you can sue that father harms mental child health is called setting up kids against one of
  • 05:07: parents which entails psychological children's problems if all goes well the guardianship for this they create a psychologist photographic commission comes psychologist and your presence Well, how would interviews children just about top like dad but now ideally they say it is as if we know everything before the mayoral election everything happens working straight somewhere all clean before the tubule raised they already arrived here suppose it will all mean
  • 05:40: asks children what's wrong with that or good dad talks about mom Well, the children said that they were killing and based on this can be jump with the court decides that Father limits rights This means that he can communicate with children only in the presence of third parties for example mom's presence does he have himself in this situation continues to lead indecent that further already giving it is deprivation of rights is me telling how this could ideally be
  • 06:11: but there is reality there is life there is court practice is legal all these four components often do not match saab good question on sms portal of the valley hello Michael my dad is a very irritable person and just that he starts yelling this applies not only to me but to all to his close ones he screamed at me childhood and now, too, can although I am 23 of the year because of this i can't stand shouting in general, and immediately begin to cry who would not shouted how to get rid of the fear of
  • 06:41: tour because overall i'm sure and to myself if I can answer but he me I don't want to freak out feel like a mess and there are situations when strangers start shout at you and they certainly don't want to show your tears there are two options problem tops light option and option heavier I'll start with a hard heavy option is actually my method of which completely replaces and in itself in head hard drive and generally forgot who
  • 07:13: yelling at you at all on e'er do not react it's hard enough she prescribed by a very heavy neurotic who just life is not sweet and they there is no way out because it is very difficult work now light option you should deal with the Pope and you need to make your father talk like that how do you want you to be completely watered irritable to limit our free medical care in all
  • 07:43: pharmacies heaps of pills can be cured and with irritability to relieve for example antidepressants and if your dad is still experiencing 300 by furious anger and aggression i'm straight on pills so she is described against rage there and rage it all treated this thing your dad wants he he does not want to be treated reads everything ok we ok you have to say myself that if I want to change and not start when screaming and how successful I am
  • 08:15: a person with high self-esteem calm react i have to put my own dad in place it is easier that is something like daddy's papers you papers dad love you but he's like that man just but you don't care about the floor and dad like i already said it can heal do you say dear father if you want communicate we will communicate only tapes in a calm voice as if in the song Zykina and here is the Volga flows smoothly and as soon as you will
  • 08:46: satisfied with the excitement of the sea dad I'm with you can not communicate a whole hugs at first your daughter dad wo n't understand about the habit of yelling and here he is faced with the fact that the exact stupid not communicates and daughter is required to have iron eggs and daughter or required survive this situation and especially if you there it is really dependent god forbid one apartment you live above all at once move out if you can if you have rod and you can this story
  • 09:17: survive and force your father with you be considered talking like you want something can be a hard option you do not have to offer everything on this will end hopefully I explained in detail good evening good evening allah hello please speak my name is Irina i just michael thank you so much i not such an opportunity to run by phone
  • 09:47: I have a question for you Acacia in childhood I am now an adult Of course, that's the cassation that my mom one day did not believe me believed neighbors all it was very so corny I was at girlfriends on a visit Annie when I get home through some time is quiet neighbor told mom that i Here I stole it and watch what I mean of course I was very surprised and of course who does not was mom took up the side of the cape and
  • 10:17: said that the duty of one adult man she won't lie so you really led them now now give me the clock 8 was hysterical to me it was seven eight little was i crying mom proving I didn't understand anything you how do i remember it it's been 30 here and in the evening my father came said that if no one saw how that she has this watch let's stop hounding a child that's what it means
  • 10:47: stood up for me but mom for the call the prince of the grid and then the neighbor came already the day and said u and give parts and became in the selection I went there that it is made in the basement tones found understand and little grandson here I am mom there is no longer a living tip nighly loved all my life well I was very hurt that she explained his side your choice then channel watch on slime but she is without him only because
  • 11:17: Russian man will never lie understand and I was so hurt and that offended the past I thought about it for a long time and Here I certainly do not invest relationship choose push the buttons not just wondering which buttons here have we have some server even Lebanon and phone view speaks and correctly phone and somehow tickled his nose presence something like that speaks well you
  • 11:47: Now it is considered that it influenced you influenced because you are now relationship but we are together there mouth because how not and that you are not something so then I immediately understand that minivan loves me fast and almost you I do not thank you, I understand firstly Thank you very much for your call in the second
  • 12:17: let's conclude from this and tell adults how to respond when he does not doubt his children dear adults tags sung in song she will find another mother and son never therefore if for example to your neighbors parents parents children make no claims yell right away blame the child must first try sort out even have a child stole
  • 12:47: watch or neighbor says he stole at least you can talk normally Now suppose such a situation with one side neighbor on the other native daughter native daughter age seven-eight years duo mom I did not take the clock on that native mother says neighbor you hear she did not take the clock then the neighbor should somehow explain why she suspects a child for example she was in
  • 13:17: the basement with the clock neighbor saw child and you watch a neighbor saw how child sells watches on ebay the neighbor saw how the child wears a neighbor 's watch saw how the child offers passersby a drink he watches but at least something turns out unfounded statement neighbor and very interesting criterion i and faith because she always doubted that age itself is something
  • 13:48: worth only for the muzzle as well no reason why you should always do not take sides firstly first strangers but still take sides baby and try to figure it out now you if you yourself doubt child scaling to lie guys squalene the couple became whatever you say neighbors You see, I talk with bocelli even in this they are bravo I tend to believe her if my daughter would later rendered that she took her daughter would
  • 14:20: ashamed thereof, why do not you right now, and because I still remember telling resurrection when someone broke a decanter and Volodya Ulyanov did not admit brute that it she then admitted that he would give it to him it was a shame so here are the children in that sense they are straight enough clean frank and tender to god it is alone can wear so when you call teacher to school when your child
  • 14:50: accuses parents of other children neighbors relatives just namesakes you don't have to behave like that even if it is your want to do is deal with the situation and need the same yell and listen to the child for start at least see what a trifle it would seem yes and have a child here are women how many elite do not remember Marina spoke up and did not speak until so far such a trauma remains for diversity message from vatsap to all on act good afternoon mikhail
  • 15:21: my father left the family when I was still as a teenager, my mother never set up against him I myself understood that he sorry goat and now we do not communicate Already 17 years for me it is not and probably I he was not forgiven my friend says that I should communicate with him because she will help me to build relationships in generally with men and it's kind of like my childhood trauma but he doesn't need his father i'm sure of it I do not want you think does it really bother me in
  • 15:51: creating your family unfortunately may be and fortunately so ends no the gate and no connection was different I did not understand the letter why he was a goat what is your mom divorced or because as a child, Marie didn’t communicate there letters not clear but 2 is not enough fact but what time is not communicating and and it is not i 'm sure i 'm writing a listener but not I know maybe he was not allowed to communicate maybe the mother was against it can be
  • 16:21: need to talk to mom ask mom what have you done all our dad with we did not communicate mom as a neighbor can lie to begin and says he did not want to in fact, the mother did not allow it is necessary to withdraw mom on clean water but it can in no way It does not affect us in relationships with men the principle of the eyelet department is such primitive straight headlamp bezam but type if you are sex dad goat something for all male goats and clarity and we can not say the word goat I remembered or you can not list
  • 16:52: but God will forgive and that's the main thing that my mother and daughter fastened in Soviet understood so I want to say that is not always the case everything is straightforward and linear from this one this this one this one what is the situation with a man great attitude michael hello mother very much unstable psyche in childhood anger changed at the mercy and my turnover every
  • 17:22: I did not understand the hour suma is now very fights women not knowing what it is difficult to wait for her to communicate what does go for it his time me and Barlaam give a psychologist and solve this problem at all so you know about fear in a non-folding relationship between the sexes it is often up to a heavy relationship between children and parents here take for example Story after reading about watch fighters than Mary's case
  • 17:54: This story is about the fact that my mother knocked out baby from under the feet a sense of security but besides everything is easier that I'm not my trusts and the child does not feel under mother protects the child feels you know that in this situation that mother and in general merge just in any situation very tragedy of a child of 8 years she understand on herself must for herself to answer them and you will not help our good night good night good night Hello I have a problem which
  • 18:25: then psychodrama and childhood are connected and regarding him just the opposite sex school I kind of already and boy I was also caring for friends one girl in general she pushed me and since then i have a relation to
  • 18:55: apartment and now and I have some feared and and attempts to build from our not girls but it's very difficult for me the question of how to deal with it i'm 33 years old now and so i don't I'll freeze your head , I'll offer you the easiest option you first need be ready I refuse you can be
  • 19:26: ready to sail that you come up meet and she does not want to meet I your life is not crumbling to us men are not I'm getting used to this sinks in from here as we remember Girl, can I go? Are you normal ? act is not then following yes you can so this is my attitude about try a no way out of all need to practice it solve problems and I do not want even psychologist send why are you just
  • 19:57: Come to the girl but you are ready in advance to the fact that not every one of them will be you jump around your neck and here's the maximum you all my life I've been paraphrasing you when you get hurt then go to a psychologist after you girlfriend failure no just you have to harness me easily I think that men are not so arranged that they are generally ready for them which will fail the poll will send it normal girls they are very vulnerable they don't ready therefore as a rule not at all
  • 20:27: gets acquainted for them failure is just drama yes we are she guys are not used to girl dopov and this is some kind of go here that's all and do not need any finds a deal that is as if you do not kill then everything will be good and it really does not kill you and you By the way, solve the problem with my mother way so hello Michael me name is lady we have remington will crawl for a minute yes I lived in the city for 33 years
  • 20:57: new york i'm a beautiful and successful woman with men, I have a problem when I man like after the first date right away to make sure you do not call back and if he calls back there she had to be gone he would be gone why they believe that undeserved good relationship that is deserved Apparently you had problems with the same father when you dad says i'm flooded get away from me dad you see dad eat then talk dad dad works
  • 21:28: listen to close the door at all after that Of course girls grow up and the same boys who grow up mother mom mom then this mamma beaten venus you right now wallow and these boys flow too shy to approach the girls this is such the problem is likely to be two remember something from your relationship with parents you will understand that this is about you This we read about the mother who
  • 21:58: unstable psyche let's small whats the message let's say hello In childhood, my father often punished me He poured it on the arm could be a hose and cord or just general hand with all the power with all this I terribly loved him now becoming an adult I have my daughter I love her for three years more life but when the child fumbled roars hysteria then I fall into a state when I can't control myself first I endure then raise my voice a because I break the bar I like
  • 22:28: Kaprun and own child often I can use physical strength I understand that I am absolutely wrong and conscience torment myself I will pay what i have to do and how to behave during the nursery tantrums so as not to injure the psyche Rav must go to a psychologist and engage such a psychodrama such a genre when you lose this situation yourself somehow lead them in until you don't learn to respond normally to children such performances for example say giving the baby calm down and
  • 22:58: close the door tight too give him now u need public but we will continue after a couple of minutes of talking and so i'm remind 1 hour we talk to the touch i itself is really interesting to listen because what is one thing to read freud another elk do not lively people do stories with they were and that of this is catching up and in life in an adult that is children psychotrauma their consequences here I would be on the place of their work in the radio sanctions would also I listened here at every 2 in my Were in childhood yes that there is no secret
  • 23:30: I was a psychotrauma in childhood it turns out every first you and yes Look, I'm from my listener. michael you well say it refused The following will agree and here I am 300 times refused and I have not hooked any that advise doing 301 wait for you waiting for you somewhere for good evening hello very glad again I do not want tell about your childhood one case
  • 24:00: no one on the hangouts happened I was five years old my sister was one three and a half we drove flew butterflies grandpa on the plane and delayed liri that's why you said so the threshing room of the mother of the child is behind this to we are a child chose a younger sister and I was so offended my hand down tokyo how old were you there were 5 no whether 4 will raise yourself how much was
  • 24:33: we need to go where we could not constantly at the station well yes could i am i I was sure that I would choose because that mom always says I'm good she said that I obeyed it and never crying what am I such everything is so good here I should have cried to me then no I collapsed missing I'm somehow shut up and I realized that mom is not so loves me probably as it says and how
  • 25:03: in general actually thought this friends my here you think about your actions May was supposed to come next adored two children to give away room mother and child say elders there is a younger and most sit on the streets the fact is my friends would refuse
  • 25:34: such harmless manifestations to anyone such will not come to mind because we live in the country where the sinner does it me hunger can beat and so on and it would seem such a trifle that the child is not took in someone mother and child left outside and now a woman is 39 years old speaks and hair and trembles and have a psychologist she cried and we don't notice at all such details we do not notice such the details are my daughter says such
  • 26:05: stories yes it is i broke myself once leg but from one was lethal 67 sit on asphalt and crying helps getting up not I missed it all I can sloboda not advanced get up until you figure out what broke a leg much more offensive than it was leg fracture pain so parents regret it not understands what is the biggest here tragedy the world is crumbling as ours just said listener in the sense that children
  • 26:35: stop feeling protected one of the main base how to say things that parents give to children and that form healthy people and healthy psyche is a sense of protection and you become them in such a behavior baby loses protection feels helpless you feel that where there are no parents and that One on one with the world this is real but creates a neurosis then good evening good evening hello
  • 27:06: Speak please you live Michael need what you think and return to give evaporate the object which is very disturbing live three years when I was 4 years old I she lived safely sat down with his parents I did not behave apparently somehow bully can child 4 years hug you put on a punishment and psychologically took me gleb it was
  • 27:36: such bowls are just breast and years and said that i am tired and hid from me somewhere in the bushes I I remember this as much as I am very running scared worked hard for the police nettle or trying to find and he apparently hide from me i'm of sorts of taste for work no less like this he rendered me then he came out of the bushes and said that forgives me it was me joking I speak survive hunger itself terrible story in my life and more resentment not
  • 28:08: so much on the father because he is very steady man plan how much on mother who let me in four years allowed so me punish her when I start talking to their parents they say lyashko any character we did not know how break your temper and this situation just a place ruined me life which she decides and night nightmares two people appear dreaming it seems to them what happens before there is no such loss
  • 28:40: and it won't fly so i'm on the example of the crowd and I want to look back did not have time whom did you lose aspect somehow without protection very subconsciously that feeling [music] the psychologist and the whole psychotherapy pass not working in 33 years past 29 years This until you get rid of means need these
  • 29:10: specialists yes good evening my name is gold in childhood will bring up the seedlings screamed at me at all because it seems to me I was five years old asking for a children's rebus and drew a pencil on paper she snarling than there and chirkova particle on this history violent eyes tutor and realizing that I am panicked in adult age scolds me to chastise I fall into a stupor this language starts to sing the back of the head
  • 29:40: how to deal with this bill but this one can you stand up you have to go through it too, too, psychotherapy here is very me it seems actions on in such situations when do you lose this situation I will tell you how I did it practice a little dilute this heavy I worked in a traumatic situation the school as when I served as a driver in the mail I worked at school that is, imagining who clone knocked there will be shaggy
  • 30:12: geologist 8 means such a story I was but primary school teachers at the same time a psychologist and at the same time well psychology of these in family life and led psychology as an elective school too was with a psycho wake so you were 9 10 class and they had a crazy math teacher who screamed stream of articles you heard problems thyroid so she did the surgery
  • 30:42: calmed down but then the children hated feared she didn't normally speak Kinu boards ordinary wrote that she fascist before class and so on knew all about it and decided to spend psychotherapy is what I say psychodrama to pure means no let's hug a new taboo 25 years shrink there were small kids was seventeen eighteen i went to class and then these ports were who each
  • 31:13: ports stood a portfolio that 's not the same portos then you actually party lurking in there beat a briefcase inside laid here stood beside i go in and place hello I take from the foot of the first partir who puts throw straight right just kick like a ball and someone in the head right through the whole class it's 10 class they how leaped to announce the day they didn't understand what's going on I'm starting to shout
  • 31:45: don't understand what's going on at all I say children we are adapting in the next math lesson now when your mathematician grind you at all even as a fly buzzing here and and Carrick really everybody snealed and all were part. yes she came she screamed by itself because after here This chic lesson we had fun now imagine that Mary comes him in class and your this is my teacher 1 such a kindest one suddenly takes and foot with
  • 32:17: all the force hits the portfolio that flies more children are hurt in the head the road and then yelling begins to engage no I will not lie but it was a goat the most affectionate I did not jump all the vegetables shocked I they say children learned and this is only one once and only death she i'm not sure what this grab on wait a moment we train we getting ready for math lessons and really they said that after she
  • 32:47: no reaction at all came from I was 2 who did not even lead the ear really works and then I apparently forcedly forced but I also explained that she is the most well inadequate thyroid good happens often with thyroid this behavior strange country after the operation of women did not know good evening hello this whole thing is that I am silent no2 my 10 years he is still
  • 33:23: and mom she can't and how to take him away may or may not want the fact is that if she works another room with me until 1 it doesn't matter what he does anymore he starts flat May not go there
  • 33:53: theories are cleverly he is still a taboo boy it is embarrassing for him to drop in and yes and she goes continues with them this union it smacks of what sort of roses
  • 34:26: Here is a phenomenon I think big part of the responsibility of course on maitri lies which indulges child and I I think that this problem should be solved with child psychologist is quite possible for some short period with a child
  • 34:57: solve his anxiety problems j will sleep alone that's all that's all eyebrows black hail what child injury can saying the fact that my husband and he wonderful father attentive and loving husband and but he viola parallel relationships with others sexy women and this is not 2 3 women and more than fifty people of his raised one mom dad never had I gave birth to my husband's mother at 40 and which one This is a childhood injury thanks Catherine
  • 35:28: no [music] it's like that joke about who you work the prostitute was just lucky but so visible and a man happens but such a bug turned out to be why psychotrauma what we still shot continue after advertising such means one remembering that we finished today in the first part we talking about a place in quietly injuries and their the consequences and in the second part just good evening answers your questions
  • 35:58: good evening allatra.tv hello Michael, thank you very much for this topic. just listening to the neck of each story palmerston to learn my short story mom I probably would have one year well Here I started in this complex water too and talking and grandmother in the kitchen nA work is necessary . yes, she loved me more than anyone else in this life it was a lot of evidence of whom it was
  • 36:31: the conversation is not something there mom on me Grandma or Mom complained about something to me some situation was refused phrase Granny says yes and someone you need It was from things buy yes need handsome she needs there to buy something from mom in hearts and answered how beautiful she is it is simple and when I wrote this phrase everything is just an insult to yours well, it was said in such a tone so what she is beautiful she is ugly
  • 37:01: in the open usually wait wait do not distort me said ugly you said simple what is your name anna look in my mother's understanding is beautiful it some difficult people this happens submission people yes you type just and without a higher ugly sense lest such a difficulty you can buy a little be so well here at that moment for me say parents won't go like that
  • 37:32: complied with you do not spend up inhaling it could be years and were filmed simple important pork and so on but for me as for a younger girl so wanted to hear not only from granny from mom what are you really handsome and me probably during the life of her so I have n’t heard this pretty but i just like that thanks thanks for me priority has become difficult then
  • 38:05: there is now I objectively tractor but how would stand out the food there was let's let us see you are interested why did this happen correctly of course take your account and my mother hurt me yes and broke down tell you what the problem is small children I think that parents are so sorry for camino was looking for a concrete wall or a great
  • 38:36: the chinese is not a shattered part and that here they they are living people with complexes all imperfections with cockroaches in my head Do you understand what the headquarters business is to tell my mother so grandmother happened the following situation mom no money buy you clothes mom doesn't love herself and is neurotic and when grandma i'm just a pearl to the wall said listen but you daughter
  • 39:07: beauty otherwise buy it mom from not being able to do it from impossible but to have money to buy Has found extreme in the form of whom whom what red evil is simple and by and buying nothing needs us just and that is, mom is not a man herself self confident with complexes that don't consider themselves the sky beautiful not at all having high self-esteem that's how it Simachev and so she
  • 39:37: and about you if she was herself in the store and decided to buy something myself one moment toilet calder so why is that need to simple that is mom how would such in the way passes the child its attitude would say so unpleasant I agree and Alena asks if short as a child my grandmother me taught accuracy even too pointing on each mug always went after me with a rag with a grandmother I spent wrong
  • 40:07: a lot of time but cleaned up now I live with a young man and he says that he tenses when I control his every inaccurate movement and I already I don't control him anymore cut from Alena Alena asks how young man show that she is his not in control as I tell take on good bread in enough to walk around the basket and scatter crumbs and everything will be ok masha 20 years my father beat me in junior high school
  • 40:38: before that I loved his house were constantly scandals from the fact that we live with a drunk mom I can not forgive and you can choose a family my mother is not my mother and me I am him I hate all my life and I live myself rid their emotions to him because of this situations can't make a relationship dear Masha but again you need a specialist from you but Samuel did not get word about your 52 father's why does he hate you infantile Sorry your dad although you bore him
  • 41:09: an adult who is older than you he soul remained a child who clings for your mom and future in that sense Mummy's son, he certainly chose his mother they are you that is he does not adult family relationships and responsibility yes but such a child here he clings to mom but sad of course on this is called infantilism dear friends are those who did not have time to ask the question despair, we have a whole hour ahead