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Лабковский 21.08.2018 - Что люди ошибочно принимают за любовь

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  • 00:00: hello listeners hello Mary good evening feet they just and shmara specifically summoned from vacation so that it is their female presence nice charming well in short so here there was a boy and a girl but the program then Much will be understood boy girl and our broken hearts I want to say this is one of the most favorite topics as said sturgeon writer happens this first freshness and as for the second service she just rotten love is like
  • 00:30: say love this both joy happiness i am well and and today we talk about what people mistaken for love first love unhappy remember ask 3 well, rotten it's almost the same love undivided and 3 of one of my favorites I can not forget him even though it’s past a lot of time at the same time let's
  • 01:00: honestly look into the eyes of a friend but if it were great and then we would lost movie mobs have lost the theater we would have lost 99.99 literature and we would lose 99 percent of music why because all of the above types of art do not want throwing off absolutely art they all
  • 01:31: built on about unrequited love was often love and in i can't forget it tv it propaganda unhappy love this here especially on the channel, but see Michael I and so right off the bat and was on message in previous participation from listener he writes next to me the girl came out to another we parted well she wished me happiness and said i'm a good three months have passed but I can not forget it because it is very I love it because for the first time since the first time
  • 02:02: I want everything to give her everything for not do love and care gives tenderness in general to give all that I have and but the girl went to another question no no question our you ask a question what do here look let's break this situation from this marina question what to do the first understands that there is a story here not about love but a story about addiction why you ask because who is this the hero who wrote us he signed up from
  • 02:32: unsigned signature this nameless the hero speaks this a man who doesn't love me and which I do not need that was not included in this is the whole problem so it is unhealthy bullshit friends , I have not yet forgotten on August 26 and August 28 in Moscow there is no longer a ticket I'm talking about my lectures but on August 26 Sochi tickets a little left September 15 Peter there is a ticket to even more things
  • 03:03: ticket on September 17, the city-hero Moscow will still be October 1 Kaliningrad but it will be the gods I want yet it a song about this rotten sturgeon now in her hear, I remind you once again that we today about unhappy love example separated about how love i cant what writes us except why why big super Mom does not show and give them brag and say why not shows our refused 2 seasons to lead
  • 03:33: they wanted to find other psychologists 30 man reviewed nobody find not could though they took people you and we do not see and not pulled soar into the house they decided that they will alternate May programs with other psychologists people again watched But please Irina 37 years old married unrequited love on my part and married as they say on the aerial not to know the future husband or was able to love
  • 04:04: husband went with the baby same days together three months at least that writes together there days together three months how to make yourself love how get rid of guilt for not being I could love this nonsense dear Arina 37 years old why force yourself to love and all that makes the child and in the morning there why doesn’t love semolina porridge and about guilt Well, let's listen to the songs, she just about rotten sturgeon
  • 04:36: ago hello songs like I want let's what is your name Marina Marina what do you want to talk about ? your internal payment history just make tears in your eyes but only talk shortly at the end question in general and platinum and up to 25 years i tried to boyfriend my swallow and this seven years and it happened then we sometimes
  • 05:11: parted from time to time on me with other species well these were mine friends this usually happened for my back so I didn't know about it here and in the end and I we broke up I finally him just if he always decide to come back and ben you and without cheating and he's through four days back here but in the end anyway with he eventually passed and tires for the summer somewhere
  • 05:44: 2 years we broke up finally on the problem is that because of this I never Not at first I did not think that he can me you can not betray like this and I have problems for that now this ayat of the movie you end these guys who walk there with my back like else something [music]
  • 06:16: potential admit cavalry that he traitor the very beginning is not just such here such in the morning with such want something special cucumber stir up my father he never love lies and betrayal your boyfriend cheated on you several times I
  • 06:58: I understand correctly, I did not understand that I I thought that he was not love and then I did this did not understand then wait let's simpler you are still not five years old was 17 to a then 18 19 20 21 up here's your question boyfriend cheated on you
  • 07:29: it was unpleasant right did not start seven years have learned this truth I am interested in the question you were unpleasant you we cried even before and why you climbed back there, that 's where it lies the answer to your question is the following why here I have then why such
  • 08:00: of all things suspecting because you are not do as you wish I'm afraid that the reason is that the fighters remain alone because even when everything is on age currencies i was 17 or i was 20 years even a 10 year old child understands when he hurts or does ill he understands this he is no longer there trying to poke hands i won't either lighter outlet but there with legs and legs climbed seek from there got
  • 08:31: lowers humiliate deceive and by michael why are you such a garbage in life happens to watch what the situation is not need to be afraid of people firstly if tomorrow you meet a guy who you will change yourself in advance should know that you do not avoid people but when with you it will happen it will be no longer your boyfriend you won't even figure out relationship you just end here and the whole conversation here if you yourself will
  • 09:02: so lead then in life will be more adequate and sane guys from they will not sleep with your girlfriends on by strangers as long as you listen to this nonsense that he doesn't try to understand on purpose him why did you do he really loves you as long as you are into these games play this unhappy love with by deception and in my Marina was sick of something and be called filed sick writes what you positive transmission of tears in the face and
  • 09:32: so positive message hello mikhail my name is tatyana i'm 48 years old and by your standards I don't lie and roofs turn son 11 years old married half a year son becomes independent all the time life went to work and cares for men was not at work around only women I have a feeling that his life when ivalo but build a relationship with a man I want a question Do you think that you can start relationship not serious somehow nice chat nice sex
  • 10:03: anticipating that they will not end marriage and question 2 where can meet a man and from the second night the answer is everywhere I am The first question is that I am oaks and about light relationship as said in the 60s happy is sex without commitment or sex without guilt you know when people they do not mean at all some serious serious relationship all more about sex and chat
  • 10:33: that's what it is poured on the same another question but imagine that you somewhere they found a man dug him up literally shook off washed combed strands or and what's next for you it seems that let's go get married also it does not happen you first by you flirt like a movie know about three trees you grow between them run run out he is catching up trembled back to the tree kissed and there
  • 11:03: went and only after that talk about heavier relationships girls called seriously do not wish started michael you don't get carried away about came to the tree us at this time 16 plus we call good evening hello hello what is your name alexander About Alexander, please do turn off your receiver try again
  • 11:49: [music] we met a year and a half and that I his girlfriend of 15 years on a skill first marriage and problem is huge jealousy and girls sauce and the same cat through a friend in town when he come is starting
  • 12:19: start very serious problems very serious up to the quick vegetable hysteria like that and I really love it man you yourself hastily does not work no John's Corner You are all like LETS MAKE right now die up raising understand alexander in general really walk with such man and yes well, you read to stop
  • 12:49: the volume that you read that this absolute manipulation of neurosis hard call an ambulance how many woods on ambulance calls But you can ask that did not hurt 19 years coming soon because of her is dating your son and how old is son to become astana 5 weather that happens in the body 12 summer girl that comes soon
  • 13:21: I do not need help for anything wrong feed need to go well let's together around the house so called this doctor really sign up with a man
  • 13:52: who really need a psychiatrist and you want to let's divide the two questions probably I have to bring up so that people accept them as they are there is marie that's a joke arrived so so what it is I accept only earth
  • 14:22: nevertheless must be taken apart from the earth and the people themselves to the next only land and I therefore cannot be brought up and no age difference moral right you are all such failures haiti and are not going to live as wives so I don’t need to bring up I can not understand why with such a huge choosing a day for a person like it here are these ambulance tantrums and about brand of pills more generally
  • 14:52: the situation in which your future wife doesn't love your baby very much jealous I understand and you say I am her love that is i love what i love about her and this, too, understand this, too, unfortunately extra bandage happiness and psyche though things healthy so I will tell you so The options I see here are 2 1 this is not at all your girl and second First you decide your problems are saying
  • 15:22: at the age of 19 and a bride and only then we can further discuss something up to those so far problems are not solved by a psychologist by gender yes jealousy psychiatrist about psychosomatic ambulance tells us not what you live as a man as it was with alcoholics already lift me alcoholics behave much more adequately good evening, good evening, make please say hello hello oo yes we hear say I ester home
  • 15:57: I'm on the street in the army finished what was still and then were walking-walking
  • 17:20: it's usually reasonable love that is you like such guys who are with you at odds with someone else meets you are stupid not empty millions of people who start
  • 18:03: listens exactly concerned about this issue but I can answer you literally after a couple of minutes we keep talking about love unhappy he is unrequited and behold suffered when you sing very handy here I want to get better known that I am ready to understand and accept If you are a person, do you have a white room? here as if and grief and suffering everything is clear I promised reply and before the pause our girls are ours I will say
  • 18:33: that's what's the problem here when we talking about love then who are you listening to this the program you know that I think that any adults is an attempt to reproduce relationship experiences mostly children with parents if we imagine a child who lived with parents in feeling that he was not sure he did not know the feast loves ageeva or not very much can they sister love more
  • 19:04: or brother he has parents of elements then we have a dad, that is, that is, no, that is, that no there somewhere in the boarding school then I have until the child is not dad then mom tells showing photos w sh your dad dead deaf-and-dumb submarine commander here or when sea ​​captain why here my story seemed more interesting baby do you know get there im just
  • 19:34: wants to talk Mom's hard Mom's such that she takes on belt and Leonari here or even in her together they drink and the baby starts wind up in the psyche of the next stories I certainly love my parents but when i love them i suffer i don't know how they treat me i don't know whether I here are these famous talk to be did not want to give birth abortion i just didn't work out a Dad was totally against
  • 20:04: this is all as a result what then this child grows up he ready for this unhappy unrequited love and as they say in russia plus eyes all the dew of God and the boy is leaving you sleeps his girlfriend these something runs up then back connects and rf and understanding man is actually love why is he so used to suffer since childhood from another other relationship does not raise
  • 20:35: he of course always dreams about his head some happy love but when his life there are people who could make him happy with him or her generally indifferent to such why men and even Freud noticed that you can achieve only those whom you knew he did not know such relationships before only good dad recognized such people alcoholic mom with a belt and myself visibility on five days so for him
  • 21:06: much more familiar these sufferings are like ours they say the actor to break the aorta so that all it was with a cry all accompanied slamming doors and care to mom sobbing reconciliation because so This man passed childhood and about other not experiencing emotions but we went farther good evening but hello . sorry my name is julia 31 year
  • 21:41: I have this ratio problem four years ago I fell madly in love man first we had such the relationship that i give was running we met chatted but periodically ignored can block there very responsible and in general and throughout four years so here goes on stay like guys
  • 22:11: look after me successful wealthy In general, well, people are good, but I start communicate then you understand that does not pull it doesn’t involve any inside either such yoxley hearts goes new name that guy and so it goes on so the question for some reason is like me switch from him somehow forget its because no porridge at all always and
  • 22:41: how finally is the relationship normal if you and settles talk well firstly not only you but all people who are in this relationship about which is still mao zedong said worse the better here and so I said, and it is necessary tell yourself this is what i am anyone here I do not like
  • 23:12: that is, do not tell this story about love why and as long as you think it's a love story meaning and throwing a man like it suffer a man masochist psychologically sacrifice why does he get knocked down grab him tell other feelings therefore the first thing you have to say is that it is not love you don't love any guy but you have a need for suffering so the first other guys are a number not lying this is true they can not
  • 23:42: make you suffer like this so you will always compare it with the former is always in favor of the former but when you will tell yourself that I am an ordinary adrenaline junkie who constantly need these emotional swing who constantly need these afflictions experiences that should be permanent tears radar disassembly shoot our we are cotton doors and care and it is like your problem more than that it makes you
  • 24:13: unhappy like any drug addict who but is addicted to something smokers and drinkers but it's all called chemical addiction there its bomann and so on y them than the problem that it poisons them life can not enjoy it they live to and deeply unhappy here is the first thing should start stop playing love you have to say to myself that I am nobody here don't love but i have a problem i
  • 24:43: fixated on suffering and therefore i'm not stacks up normal relationship and as soon as with someone relationship begins and my body does not I get the right amount of suffering right away starting to call the former because to Sorry I used to humiliation I I came to the fact that I am a victim therefore I all this did it first step 2 step you meet absolutely any guys so they were not at the same time often say
  • 25:14: first you will meet with the same but because you have trouble or under it imprisoned but as soon as one of them behaved incorrectly looked askance not called back is not something that cared about someone under the arms of this one listened to something at all on the chest and I looked neckline these bye how do they say money love you but how friend you have a good guy I will go on in life without you and when
  • 25:47: you are with all the people begin to act as lead that is not to sag either deign like love demagogues experiencing but on the contrary say no neither not nice i don't want to offer anymore relationship first of course like any addict you will experience will feel breaking it up exactly you will stomps and sausage as in that joke you will all reputation we call you will try to drink your grief it's time tell you about your private
  • 26:19: love but every time you are stiff lead him according to rule number three they are now told and have a third rule then with the passage of time your mind will start to change that a miracle will happen first for you stop this most important like such relationships such guys you suddenly want a normal relationship adequate guys and secondly you stop suffering because everyone who He is listening to us now, too, because he understands
  • 26:51: that they want all the same happy love and happy relationships to that twisted but have to drag the brain in the crippled psyche of former children she is not adult guys and girls habits here to such perverted relationship because when a child loves mom and mom beats his tones i love and afraid of coral baby loves mom and dad and dad do not remember the progress of the child
  • 27:22: birthday I remember there was a story such maria the toilet at the lecture time was either on for the sake of porn lecture it was when got up woman and my father says never was interested in my divorced stuff lived in a nearby street but no move no came to think he called right though don't be ashamed of your daughter's day today births and 8 years old you would have congratulated and then overtake half past seven opens the door is run by the father and the daughter says
  • 27:53: you birthday congratulations to you ran faster for the gifts we ran out I understand that fighting is all closed shops in my small town The remaining 20 minutes and present father, he does not have and go for a gift nowhere because everything closes the father runs the first store runs away pick berries chose a tooth pasta it was voentorg here understand such girls when she grows up
  • 28:23: herself climb into this relationship that she did not call back to sleep St. girlfriend would you not sorry and she to this got used to her this is men real match let's go further and the question from the listener three months met men and then It turned out in a conversation that he believes that I do nonsense in life although I held in the profession of a woman I love I do not provide my own work I earn a lot well I can afford travel and and respect yourself after
  • 28:54: This I left him but continue talk to him speak to him that worthy of respect and I expect that he will call apologize how to end this relationship and stop entering with him internal monologue for this it is necessary to understand this bridge before what is happening today and this phrase in third grade when you sit College everyone took to irrigate just for the sake of bullshit and passing father guide listen traits of nonsense doing go let's go to the floor
  • 29:27: wash the kitchen and then when you are saturday or Sunday you start to collect herbarium fit mother and say four rounds and go and do your lessons better something that bridge is only with its plants dry ua besides this nonsense other bullshit no head and so when you grow up to you they tell you with one I'll be in trouble the country you are waiting for and the continuation information relationship and how would a healthy a man who understands that he
  • 29:58: unpleasant after all, what maritus neurotics say interesting design I feel hurt and unpleasant but I love hugging conflict between both valence desire simultaneously how to eat these he gives out so they have not even say that I love but she can pay attention to us teach apology niki of course yes acknowledgment of an apology and this is a story about self-esteem they are about love because
  • 30:29: our heroine this've required shares but it is what's mine the problem is not going with him at all finish nothing the beginning of big love and waiting when will call wanted to apologize and recognize I do not nonsense never have healthy check it does not look like healthy man you just lose interest in for example from the sea you yourself respect until digging works obsessed with silver silver rain and he tells you my report is such nonsense doing here in their next what will and
  • 31:00: do then i like excuse me Mikhail less in the symbols im still in discussions will enter yes no it is not I like nonsense did not correctly represent this phrase here dur, that's what you tell further say i like yes yes sedan of course I like saying bye
  • 31:30: just wanted to say mari understood because I liked the mayors suggests Already a dialogue and why do you need to prove tell someone something to my please and I will tell you why when to me it was already 40 years old i was running around my elderly mom and told me that I myself I represent something there is a need already an adult man to prove something my mother and my mother I was with such authoritarian character and I was not in the scrap was not 15
  • 32:01: years underlines and here is how mari said the type i like my job is also my mom who was under eighty told doing such nonsense photo means on the same radio station there Garik Sukachev and there it’s written work mom Our women apparently also thought it was not at all before that time go mikhail my grandfather I start early works on the radio and my grandfather is always asked but when you get a diploma you
  • 32:32: same 3 you will work i got a diploma obs continued and lera 36 years asks and in a relationship already two with half a year and my chosen one cool enough expressions of love but by actions shows care that is he is a man of action i am more of a person creative constantly want tactile communication watch observe ironing kiss question somehow sticky so as my manifestation of attention sometimes not the reaction i'm waiting for thanks and not to flush the floors say such a situation some
  • 33:03: unpleasant word stuck lera here look marriott i love household examples come our 36 year old heroine in the women's shoe store She loved these shoes in her size like 36 years old and she says a saleswoman a please give me these chic shoes size 36 and I'm just so 35 sorry to say but this is not my shoes la would
  • 33:33: guys so torment yourself you don't will go into details why not 36 or maybe i tear them apart some carcasses and sick people I know enough from the whole shop which sells clothes that need to be worn out new specialty american for fans but gave the bike many half a year then sit on the leg is all for masochists a normal person says but it does not suit me yet but more we finish we continue to discuss unhappy love good evening good
  • 34:04: evening hello nice that man also reacts to words what is your name just my name is ashtar empty we call it 25 and I meets on foot live together ready by 3 years everything seems to be fine urgently lived well in shower per capita traveled a lot
  • 34:34: announced countries and now somehow feel in the folder is oak and rude I don't even know myself nothing to do and lately i'm not I know I mean, does it have a relationship? linette and my last example died father and then I don't harry after three very badly crashed on a motorcycle now so he became well here and i feel that I just love this relationship somehow
  • 35:07: and I do not understand why to do it because already authors are my long-term relationship previous in the same way per capita and went to nowhere 5-year respect there was none motorcycles I, too, there was only eggs before us not a cause [applause] just do not understand what is happening and why i railing
  • 35:39: know about the attitude must know somewhere called and here we have 100 pairs begins well yes she really wants a wedding that's home comfort I somehow do not know I am afraid of this visible for fear of perspective you accept you behave like let's say from no well we have there interesting mari so Christina asks how to understand whether she likes me my boyfriend is 25 years old for me 34
  • 36:10: together but live together they offer me yes and spend little time because he a lot of work feeling to me i have I see but in my understanding if a man loves then he wants more time float gifts or stoke in the cafe but it's nothing I have not Vij never invited me to my house lives with mom and she says alarming so the guests are not introduced now I plan rent an apartment in Moscow but he does not It is planning to do with me Kristina thank bone density and horn and skype collapse
  • 36:40: let me tell you and our rest patronymic that you, like anyone, have the right to your feelings if you feel that relationship does not suit you do not think that you have some whims of the body you inadequate hysterical think about what you have the right to feel what you are feel about it in this case you knowingly ask a question here we are watching listened to the sea schA I read Mary how
  • 37:10: you think does not like her finger but here is Katya woman let's you say this verdict here begins to shift it no because Before nerf, if you just read letter your opinion or concrete or not go in shock from mom and from in general the situation is happening well ok i will give and doesn't like amalie what i think with you agree
  • 37:40: so what I want to say is that you should you don't have to trust your feelings don't give a damn about who what anxious mom to you it hasn't no relationship you home no invite do not want with you together whether to rent an apartment to live here should be interested and so come up can especially achieved success type i'm not divorced because I'm waiting for children when you retire it's you who are not interested in anybody friends my love is only bright happy just a man end I come
  • 38:10: do I want to do all that today in the winter heard about the unfortunate not separated this dependence it is not the most we love is an unhealthy relationship unhealthy feelings unfortunately very many people live like this without ever knowing happy love we 'll talk about how all the same do so to experience healthy feelings for healthy people have healthy relationship while i say goodbye to you up next tuesday thanks marie