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Михаил Лабковский - О дружбе между мужчиной и женщиной.

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  • 00:00: adult program broadcast watched Labkovsky Michael Good evening sadness girl I remind our seth to the viewers what if you want to ask a live question our programs make it very easy by calling 8 499 918 43 78 or clicking on the green button call to the studio the button is under our window broadcast Well, the topic of our program today friendship between man and woman i want Immediately start voting expensive networks
  • 00:30: viewers vote and such a question friendship between man and woman first answer option exists does not exist and only between the former answer at the end programs see the results and you yourself you understand me beat me too I believe that if you are to man initially low romantic feelings can calmly be friends with him all life and be friends then families after create after the conclusion then yes well, but here let's say the first question elena asks
  • 01:05: Mikhail, please tell us what is general friendship than friendship is different from love and how to understand what a man wants be friends or man wants something more and while the first time decided communicate in a friendly way to cause trust and friendship from love different friendship in any part a love friendship is not included in the concept of love and friendship in progress yes wait friendship friendship not included and no sexual friendship physical attraction
  • 01:36: moreover, many things coincide before this attention is care and so on it close people here legs such things but there no sex and am I there at home this is actually the watershed I finished a Do you think it is possible that people talk like friends like buddies year 3 5 7 years then something from them switches in the brain and they start perceive each other as sexual partners
  • 02:07: it is possible it is possible and it is connected not with the fact that suddenly someone is in someone someone opens yes but that sex happens to exist separately from person a recently an object on the internet and bared such a funny photo sculpture naked male torso but instead of eggs he has a brain such a funny picture that is, many think right the wrong place as usual and when a person suddenly experiences a desire
  • 02:38: and Nila here is just like an inter man a woman like she is his girlfriend his impatient sex to do here This is how it really begins. as far as I remember there was a lot films on this subject even in Soviet time there was a movie recently there was a movie some American he called by my friend sex This is an interesting topic for many. interested can someone call with this
  • 03:08: share your impressions said kazan or is there already filled then I want to say what probably happens and since then the question arises that is friends were friends and then helped out looked at another with different eyes something has changed in his perception in other person and dealt a relationship happens more so it is interesting because it's not just some strangers
  • 03:39: is engaged in sex after all already dragging already know each other friends interesting story next question tatyana michael hello is it possible only on friendly relations create family to marry if man is not pulls sexy and generally communicate even live together sometimes a man says you need to create a family to give birth to children I regard our attitude as friendly not I understand why without regular sex he still want to take the family but who Tatiana wrote this to us.
  • 04:11: Why so I do not want them without sex do not create exactly no problem tatyana This is the problem of the bridegrooms. This is for him too. no problem so do not need yourself against she asks whether it is possible for 1 friendship create yes means if she herself asexual woman here that is there people know yes heterosexual homosexual watch sites that are people who are sitting in
  • 04:41: Basically, I don’t care what kind of people I am talked about it i suspect so man was such as never Vasilich Gogol who chased other nuts I think that was really quiet here there is our tatyana not having sex interested in she may well marry but for the sake of are you born apparently it beats hart relax and stay here for a long time concerns her fiance but this is his business why he wants to marry any
  • 05:13: at the price you want Tatyana that is the story then Tatiana really does not want him, he is not easy walks to read one so I don’t know win but that's all offers married lest she come out so weird the groom asks us so hackathon I don't know how she is either understand Apparently she somehow understand with reason that man let's decently he will good father of her children order it apparently trying somehow rationally distribute sex at all
  • 05:43: is the basis of family relationships as not cool so I understand what things Job asks us Annie Hello hard to make not romantic relationships with men at work all time it seems that the stones are rolling up if they say it is nice if they say pleasant make good can't not see that i like myself consider myself attractive hard from this to abstract I am afraid that I will evaluate unintentionally romantic gesture like
  • 06:13: friendly and get into an awkward situation plus for some reason the very beginning of men provoke flirting smile I do n't know How do I get rid of it? like but do not want to me the males immediately flew out not at all on its own flirt what to do psychologists on the label for sukhotina neurotic yes it is once again read it neurotic message so first to me hard to make not romantic girl relationship like this sentence
  • 06:44: understands but what is visible to any man which if she communicates she perceives as a potential young man have she starts flirting starts give him whale marks like ethmoidite evil further why am i not romantic relationship with men but you answer me I will say differently to texet not to climb boys friends without them the world would be empty communication with anyone to communicate from if you ask yourself for you who is more important
  • 07:14: girls are friends or boys are friends are you what do you say to goals depend on a person friends day but now there are friends wife I'm definitely more girls engine novices here on the filter handling hard to get romantic relationship is the world male place friends this is something crocodile baths and foods beds who is this and romantic dinner is about to get up on a helicopter ask yourself you need it at all you
  • 07:45: interested to start specially relationships with men for friendship in general it was you so in life Xenia officially familiar with men you are a guy you know I do not like you immediately tell you complete freak here's an interesting dude you You know, I would have talked let's be friends was so no I had acquaintances who put with my friends and naturally you are not searched for the bookcase naturally can Kotovsky
  • 08:16: Michael that says Annie in the monster well as I understand the problem of Annie is that they just an acquaintance immediately turns into discharge of potential young people then there is she like march i'm not here she understand apparently wants boys friends why this is a matter in I also have boys friends girls yes i was all that and means but i'm not I understand that I was on purpose interested in finding a girlfriend girlfriend how do i ask you why i miss
  • 08:48: boys friends that there is no need at all possible further she writes at work all time is good while I roll up here hello neurosis will begin before cards hobby breaks in if says nice doing good well dofiga nice rolls up a bad report can't you see you like me considered attractively hard from this abstract girls give decrypt Here is a sentence so I'm so cool walked so you lived you this ear go out 7
  • 09:19: you would know i suffer for it and what i better you harder it is something that even This is a single thought such as in Russian written you start to read i'm not swimming we understand further I have a big tea themselves romantic alive as a friendly get in awkward situation and black is afraid of us I want to be friendly from ours when at all rest in general would be nafig detected and on 1 7 celebrate aromatic as friendly why does she fall for the situation it's him
  • 09:50: will get a guy yes it is split and and the problem brought on starting here neurosis begins in full growth plus we begin men to provoke flirting smiling and knowing how to get rid of it I want to like it but you do n't want me Immediately fell sanctions and so on what to do These psychologist’s answers went further. Karina asks if there are friends relationship neurotic but it happens in general when a person is not self-sufficient
  • 10:25: then he tries at the expense of his friends let's say to solve your problems for example all wondered about domestic money or average wears can your complaints or trying to use in order to they solve some problems yes it neurotic relationship is basic manifestation of friend political relations when you don't have a free relationship free people up
  • 10:56: partnering and when someone depends on someone inside r1 friend works for another one they pay well, I'm better off it owed someone a shore well, in short many such stories that you can treat as if friendly but not very healthy and how to avoid such situations how to solve problems with his self sufficiency with his independence with their individuality
  • 11:28: that that 's when a person feels in independent in this sense , you are different completely different relationship like that so we have such along the way which how much growls right though they call the brain makes perhaps no more I There may be friends who are trying roll out
  • 11:58: we hope that there are no who are trying to pour out soul can be go normally desire if the soul but furs door for ten years the truth that is not for those probably not part how could you deal with different cooks writes in chalk like sexually one old buddy nose but don't know how about him
  • 12:28: say advise something not about the farm of course is so cute wants to ask his light as you get out sexually cream player over formulate the text drachma splashed for a nice bring all the phrases that is she is afraid of friendship translate into something well no no why people are afraid of such situations and attached questions they refuse all to which he will not have self-esteem say for example blue sexually
  • 13:01: where are we going to do this at the same time she saw afraid to lose friend what if she say about them the cover will tell you honestly if the guy my friend and in another way I do not show myself I think that we as a woman are not very interesting because men usually behaves actively and of course on god understood that he likes her and this by the way stories about how such a question did not beat up to 1 myself a believer on the matter here
  • 13:31: the course seems to be male and female friends one of them does this forced for his situation is quite humiliating and he doesn't want to be friends at all one wants to be loved but not love offers nothing at all offers his talent as if absolutely but being humiliated even before in something goes on such a relationship that they have you needed because the meters but wants this not offering another there forced
  • 14:04: friends here is the same story in friendly relations between men and by women can you remember remember and she don't remember there was such a brilliant film flying in a dream and in reality do not remember everything and there was such a line so there was such a love triangle from lyudmila gurchenko one work worked as gaga poltos tabakov and oleg at all Yankovsky while they like
  • 14:34: worked give pave such friends right until the coffin while tobacco or white goods Chonko and Gurchenko loved Yankovsky one bones like no one at all so the girl is a little child is not necessary but even think her and and while she always behaved like a brook Gurchenko I mean he got drunk there I watched such a movie for a long time girlfriend such a fighting then there really is no Of course, shamakh was suffering as if
  • 15:06: that i'm any blessings for answering further tobacco was also a friend of betrayal was friend and yankovsky and gurchenko knowing that he loves Gurchenko she loves him not such are neurotic friendly relationships that are not about friendship but people behave like this holding back her real desire yes she because it did not take place so yourself you need to talk what you want need to do what you want yes yes not do what you don't want but for this
  • 15:38: need to have but at least a little willpower to refuse it because it is not friendship of course but shit is a form a form of masochism you decide agonizing right before your eyes grow yes you urine when they get to give up altogether this relationship even we will find another plane is not an easy way out because if we had a gear about alcoholism or drug addiction yes then you
  • 16:08: would yourself for will succeed here doctor sea without loops over sits no addiction specialist years and we would all be threesomes and decide what you cured them walked knew mark it stop doing it but man the question arises and when will it stop This business that with him will its understanding emptiness and depression that is so we find gets some pleasure to drunk so full of smoke after all feel a little more fun
  • 16:39: relaxed and when this one is taken away he and so in depressed carcasses all depressed all masochist they naturally so and this taken and what will you say to him well you die there cirrhosis of the liver twitch spinal cord looked like or I know what will happen, and so on there is a drug addict living there for 35 years but scare him before they tell the corpse It shows in the hole and bringing the year I realize
  • 17:10: all but what I have to offer in return that like 7 and offer Gurchenko who In the company of 40 years to a certain she does not have a this find loves wreaths skogo and then lateral nausea he will not replace but will remove that question every psychologist advises tie with this relationship will perish okay i'll be alone dying till the world is not ends these 0
  • 17:40: Of course for this you are addicts radio operator not that this is not the main thing in life is tell the alcoholic that vodka is not the greatest pleasure why because they are so worried suffering and how it seems yet gets rid of the need to take it away from them do pick up an object from a neurotic neurosis yes he immediately begins to crumble that is, it becomes badly empty what life is meaningless and so on
  • 18:10: why because these are the emotions that she had to test other emotions enjoy life not because someone doesn't love you and what loves you so that you were okay the day that got drunk or pricked and also you are just nice you are not under stress i am well circulation is not necessary to drink specifically for this for this you have to go the whole way first refuse then before breaking there they have all breaking and about unhappy love you about
  • 18:43: addicts brittle alcoholics breaking and having smokers still breaking go through it and then start zhek some life to that 1000 myself everything is bad imagine and as a result strong church pleases and only then gradually not even what came back and nowhere to go back those whatever else start living the life which even could not dream but it is whole the road that takes time and requires forces and people dependent ladies about addicts speak too we all depend and
  • 19:16: and go about unhappy love and so further they have willpower then problem they therefore dependent it is difficult for them therefore it's very difficult I can say about myself what when stone consultation prepared with such problems but me more coming about unhappy love is certainly not pro dual with alcohol also happens with drug addiction is less but rarely we too sometimes it is a very complicated procedure but
  • 19:46: when the check is already on this path he got up the psychologist went there already the second day find out not drinking something already happened that of course has a huge chance of issuing goals get rid of it but there I would have the word cured would use them so unfortunate for people not divided it the disease is obsession with man who doesn't remember their names at all who doesn't know who you are don't care what will happen to you all that matters to him
  • 20:17: happens this is absolutely not great and of course pathological painful condition more so when conducted medical research then They showed that in this condition at home analysis is not very much then there is a check there but shows and do not know there hormone a little bit other pressure there happens network picardy is a disease changing that is really not in itself a little bit but it's a whole road because when you take away from man even that we are for
  • 20:49: Brush otkhodyval proposes instead, he has nothing to offer there is that but he must do it himself You know, and you're glad that someone exists in whom he places his emotions from and here you understand this toy you take him away here so easy or as sayings better be katya rich and healthy all poor and sick drove on well saying with eyes out of mind
  • 21:20: but it will help you understand all the same cutting people is hard Serge asks why girls love make friends with gays girl I give you I ask girls in general love even where probably because they are like girlfriends like girlfriends probably easier with them maybe some I don't know myself not I also have no such experience gay girlfriends but i have girls acquaintances who speak with gays so communicate comfortably I will not come to you
  • 21:51: pestering you they won't take advantage of you if you drink too much they won't you can drive less minus loop Well, take the question because girl leads where their girlfriends as if on one side of men on the other parties congenial men i mean they are there About rags on say about cosmetics and emotionally gonna be with you your team they are all pleased as if from
  • 22:22: I can't wait for this guy Just like so I do not understand how anybody I I think something like that once Oleg miami more than 20 ago when more syllables are not here it was said i got on mixed a disco mixed but there was no separation until lunch lesbian aber people were there approximately 60 percent gay percent 40 lesbian and 20 percent heterosexuals
  • 22:53: like me such suckers who have not yet knew where they came from, Sasha was also in 1 time me and but it was me we were young there will be 30 something years before everything was first Once the police are such a shareholder corps and the security was nowhere crowd these and twitch and not realizing that gays are who Lesbian dots I died for walking and look means sitting boil if japan right in the legs
  • 23:24: unreal beauty check 5 to black roll models and everything stared and everyone envied the bar steps clickteam not come as well thanks or straight soul in soul sussy pusi right let's 100 rubles all passed by call me look at the cape of his girl right were unreal beauty but the throne gay yes that's probably why they might be I will be interested with him and the servants you live and that's probably why yes well, that is this is normal full friendship between
  • 23:55: Chinese women up yes absolutely like a girlfriend and but he to me also squad because he is not here English films were about this what is the best friend with madonna on buddy trouble format or chase all lived in the same apartment where the girls complained to each other about the novel some unsuccessful and the girl helped the code the guy found him and bye tonality such a comedy was others the same for
  • 24:25: take you on advice about metal came absolutely normal pain this I once had a gay couple absolutely meter dismantling them were like u heterosexuals what you promised me and where family filth attitude to not change this phone is gonna meet someone that is, generally zakharovich eyes And as if you told sits as I further The next question we have is kind from Jacob
  • 24:56: I am 36 years old there is an experience of an unsuccessful marriage recently divorced girls 21 now we are together we work while we just talk the difference in age and sufficient work together reason not to develop relationships thanks but I have enough cluster stay not develop this relationship side that's funny for church hen seriously yes i remember loving come back to me a man is not Astasina
  • 25:31: representative only botan 56 years old and girlfriend spent 17 years no parents like I am against the length is clear that against grandfather what you want and now forgot to be a leg and taken today will prevent our happiness all love to describe him 618 there how much difference is more than 15 man cinematic so massively you stooped slouching
  • 26:03: not earning at all nifiga all in life is therefore the rule is simple do you like to tell you like the most that you expect when windows beer I like you but nothing at least you did when tried and so you can not try and not see visible as afraid that since they are collegiums since and a big age difference relationships can interfere with something communication but create and who should choose for more important here is the mikhael question
  • 26:33: girl here if a man for example yes he nothing slick doesn't do much you even like, yes, how about a video, that is walking circles cuts around even your mouth not will open until you to this relationship as should not but what you feel for a long time giving birth before turned six months fit listen and let's go dating
  • 27:05: inviting you to remember these six months when he walked something did not start but I will do something to him along with how you call him your emotions that is why you have on it polite waiting for what to call it something will feel at the same time surprised blue here depends on there relationship currently no relationship
  • 27:35: yes yes yes free suppose if man is not cute after six months he for was likable he did not start prepared and here we also have a person shy people happen to be behind the walls of a house sheet I think that what it says to do you feel frustrated almost right about help she also walks around debt u can she walks too around yes to yaks well, here it is this demonstrates and that she told him like why wrote on from this
  • 28:07: started doing well then he let maybe this moment can omit but i I think women are feeling disappointment even happens when but some situation yes there in the restaurant on without a penny at a party here's a guy like and yes a guy is it that he does not like it but he even somehow them after some time it seems to me annoying what it is
  • 28:38: then everything will fit yes but it's too late for me so it seems because very indecisive and behavior and woman came up with a bit earth yes woman kostya asks friendly sex well or bad ok better enemy but happens at all or someone necessarily there is this feeling of emotion attachments from someone like
  • 29:08: women but men too yes in general, very often relationships unequal in my opinion before golf said that love and friendship are usually one or another lucky and drawn pandavas but I'm on it that it was not so but people different and it happens that in a relationship someone is measured someone accepts and someone behaves actively and for
  • 29:39: someone friendly all else do not friendly he wants to continue for a year old man here are four more pilaf that loved everything let's ruin the most tie get dressed and volition home he also fell in love yes what happens but the question is still in can you just stay after sex friends and keep chatting to a note possible but the former remain this here Separately question when we spoke
  • 30:11: options for our vote up to how what are the types of friendship between a man a woman that is a man and a woman only friends between them never nothing there will be men and a woman being at who are behind the relationship and men and female friends who maybe later will be loved are they different models or not different models but everything you listed all exists these are all kinds of friendship between man to little is there any difference but i will say so even
  • 30:43: questions ship women yes and island as girlfriend I'm noting all my pants man, that is, they are blind, deaf and dumb I understand the very poor and operetta what i want i mean i am not friends no i just aware of the same all the same woman and you understand him by your friends that they are boy and girl and then the drum there is no any differences then you will not be so smooth in the same unit how to behave with
  • 31:17: girlfriend or how to keep with the model well Here's the rating of shopping in half such situations are funny until when some Girls pretending to girlfriend taught amigos men's company and then a wild fled scar from the wall worth 6 very brutal such here clap on the shoulder and she began to complain why are you rude begin years report stars here girls and you will have everything Well, that is, at all this is ready to eat
  • 31:48: many girls who generally speak that they are more comfortable male company yes I don't have girls under my arm mostly boys friends this is normal society or the horns of girlfriends boy people know there was still not normal girl tatsanka who always grew male company and friends with men I sit on me but also many years ago head girlfriend she was an athlete engaged in the struggle, well, not a struggle, and how we will have martial arts yet and fought besides, I sega walk
  • 32:19: wears the most with hooligans talk to you are not scared then I walked on disco or become i'm just telling which man seems too such not that brutal feminine she when i was funny she when jet she so foot on the leg of the chair gives heat but such a degree of pleasure came here so I went to the disco she became the belly of the bar counter and man rejoiced in to but the ball well you came up for
  • 32:50: and hugged her belly and she is not changing poses and on the left hand saw the right broke him four fingers so foot on hands just like a hand Here come soon came Dupa military otmazali happens the same but normal bang it happens but they are fine but I could his parents like a boy wants to fight did not get and combine its us to the girl funny and go farther
  • 33:20: she asks virtual friendship rolling in love suffering misunderstandings joy falling rising again this is by definition because virtual because not met or usually a relationship of two neurotic who found each other there no family cheating but want to talk sharing happens this poems are not always remembered about she is virtual gag pen friend which goes simply in words falling levitators
  • 33:52: I will count more and more rhythm until Stage example also became a friend otherwise I know that the virtual machine escalates into a real relationship happens but I myself think that if they are virtual as if for some period of time the debts I will explain to you long ago you start chatting hello like things had them back and forth and after that nobody calls not even someone from
  • 34:23: The phone does not give only virtual checks they have a real problem, that is, they very human problems with communication they very difficult to contact soon and but this is a relationship neurotic yes this is no longer friendship this But there is no and what friendship if all sits under someone our Ivanovich be friends and super friends yet maybe communication is not enough time
  • 34:54: I forget the name of the director who made he did like a trilogy athlete like me two the film tent show knows the words and there the whole this plot is some kind of crap whom do you watch camera so they met apparently in the internet yes then decided to meet absolutely man still pass
  • 35:25: notorious and how they have this all very unhealthy relationships keeping were built to look at it hurts of course yes here after all or honey neurosis while I normally plows social networks and think there You can meet but if you see there Six months to chat and then decide meet you of course neurotic apparently she jars and what does not have a marriage she has a family and with a man she communicates and it seems to her that something is in it not normal that is maybe she is not changes but something is wrong to me
  • 35:55: it seems in its own behavior and this is generally missed you have got no family want to talk divide by 4 0 that she doesn't get it in the family and she gets it virtually yes and the same goes for the most forms of communication but this is like analyzing how to present for example with trying to cheat onanism doing this tag yes no it's not like that love type
  • 36:29: and what car her husband can say she does does not meet with anyone but such a form protective attitude here means already in family something not it's wrong that they are completely but she is nobody not getting something from men therefore goes to a minimum communication Yes, as it is, many Grisha I am between compensation in social networks inscribed grads and rushed facebook twitter vkontakte
  • 37:02: today list how I am next the listener asks if relatives relationship stops for example a girl is it possible after the completion of a relationship keep friendship or even just good relationship after all man becomes close and dear often hear that after the relationship ends people even just stopped saying hello talk when meeting why so and how are all the good you you know good people they are good part anime figure out the relationship they carried each other their own misfortunes if
  • 37:34: they themselves follow a good date reasons for parting the relationship itself outlived i mean this michal didn't deceive not changed just relationships but no feelings more why it is necessary for this do not quarrel so talk and normal the attitude continues apparently hurts right away after the end of the relationship and communicate even friendly hurts when you are thrown and when you decide to leave something painfully
  • 38:05: should almost hurt maybe some feelings still left for this a person does not shiver discounts when properly so then you leave and are satisfied together is another story so you're not ready yet of course I say the situation when the relationship bind about healthy person from all understandable and the logic is it ours or to those for the time being they love him if they love and we don't need this relationship he's not a masochist he does not want to continue the relationship sheets so as far as I understand we have audio
  • 38:40: call good evening introduce yourself please and where are you from ? yes with you live can create your question I am the moment and the groom wanted a story of experience probably only jellyfish fish Jim and we briefly about treat as friendly sex yes
  • 39:16: it means I didn't have a lot there friends with evil meadows i never conceived and great body cells given my attitude and started
  • 40:11: filled and took five years and then happened then turned up in such situations i right it was absolutely no
  • 40:44: forming and therefore I do not give any you are welcome near the end your stories to us here wishes ether so we talked by the most complete relation to even if
  • 41:23: friendship and love sexual time transition friendship yes they are simply friendly spot us understand each other to rest and panic would not be very you happy
  • 41:55: here is this situation full of relationships a year later we say goodbye to on this thanks for the story she asks armani does it up to more than i on factor said right away it's friendly sex and how friendship outgrows it is clearly visible all eager voted to the cottage speed let's look at knew the question will be resolved
  • 42:26: and here is a friendship between a man and a woman and There were 3 possible answers to our editor will show you and now there is more half of our city ​​viewers believe that your search for almost half the profit is not believes in it too 40 percent is a lot that is it 50k is not something that I'm there for you and not only whether between there for 15 years here almost 40 percent that is
  • 42:59: who does not believe in friendship between relationship friendship between a man and held 40 percent but where are you already it is clear that this is possible mystical error that concerns people who furniture their friendship almost half then that's fine how do you it seems to us because we have to believe in good depending on gender the address will be good thank you very much Michael or I would like to escape a little forward 1 our network the spectator suggested very hot topic love and money
  • 43:30: give me another talk with mexico first time on requests happens at last and by favorite topic but once people ask will start what is the next love program and money is the topic of our next program ask your questions in the comments under the announcement next tuesday 21 00 adult program with mikhail Labkovsky goodbye [music]